On “change”…

On the dynamics of change in human beings.
Personal babbles in the head of Mazen Al-Ali.

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Photo Credit: Mazen Al-Ali 2008

“it is not a question of whether or not we can change, it’s is only a matter of when we do so.” Mazen Al-Ali 1983-Present Date
Quoted on 29th of Feb. 2009

Some of us might need proof that we do change, where none is needed. “Change” is a process that can be used to describe many natural things that we don’t look twice at. For example, we grow. Not only do our bodies grow, but also our minds. That being said, we need to realize that there is nothing unnatural about change. As in, change is completely expected, somewhat predictable, and in most cases, unavoidable when it presents itself.
It is when we can detach our egos that are imprinted in our human individuality that we can finally reach a point where not only can we accept change, but also instigate it when needed. Not only can we change, we do.

I do not claim that what I have to say is entirely correct and don’t ask any level of “belief”. However, incompatibility with “fact” with what we would like to think, is always presenting itself. And if we do not attempt to understand the dynamics of change on even the smallest of levels, we will surely be but subject to changes around us, instead of taking part in it. Or better yet, being part of it.

Now, we must first define the nature of change. One would attempt to describe change as “the transformation of one thing into another”. Or even say something as “change is the chain of events that towards either evolution or de-evolution”. Many things can be said to describe change, and to attempt to take a long time into defining it into such terms will yield numerous results. So instead, I thought I’d try something else; to understand some basic natures about change that may shed some light.

One such nature is that change is a process. And as such, it has a beginning and an end. And to everything that has a beginning and an end, there is purpose. Which would naturally incline that this process is most definitely, started.
From these last few lines, a number of questions would rise. To start,

  1. What are the things than can be described as “the reason for change”. I.e. The factor.
  2. When does change end?
  3. How long does this process take?
  4. Is change something we can pause and notice while it’s happening? Meaning, can we control it?
  5. Many more.

Let’s start with 1. After long hours of contemplation over rainy weather, I came up with examples of things like any of the following “to gain, to lose, desire, necessity, preference, adaptation”. And some others. I spent some more hours and I realized that there is a finite set of items that can be used to name these sparks. Ultimately enough, the size of this change is equivalent to the desire it is associated with. And by size, I mean the effort that is needed to fulfill this change, and the effort that is needed to live with the consequences.

Now some of you might think “why is he taking so long talking about this? People change. Ok we’re over that!” and to answer that, i say that i’m doing this simply because to understand the nature of things is to have the ability to control it. And I hope that by understanding change, I can change myself into what is ultimately better, and maybe even give a tool for others to change.

Further more, there is a finite set of triggers that is common between all living things. And another set, that is common between all human beings, and there is a finite set within each of us that is the result of who we are as individuals. And this is the set that defines us. Imagine, knowing exactly what instigates change in your own self. If you did, then you would be able to initiate change within yourself. However, knowing how to start change is different from controlling how you’re going to change.

To do that, let’s play with question 4; that is whether or not we can control change? To answer that, we must notice that most significant change is sparked by either an intense event or motive and not out of thin air. Meaning, something happens. That being said, I feel it compelling to ask “what if someone changes for only a situation, or a while. Is that change as well?”
Hmmm, to be factual about his, then the answer is yes. You see, change does not always have to be evolutionary. It is simply, revolutionary. If so, then how do we achieve stability in change?

Stability in change is often associated with the duration of the motive. For example, if someone quits drinking because they wanted their spouse to be happy, as soon as their spouse is completely out of the equation, drinking commences again. That being affirmed, to be able to control the stability and duration of change, one needs to find motives that are durable and weather resistant. For example, don’t love someone because they’re hot! Because when they’re 60, they’ll look like trees.

To some people, these realizations might be alarming. How can we trust our judgment in people and things when the nature of one thing can be affected so much by uncontrollable or foreseeable events? It’s going to be almost impossible to have “faith” in anything. Alarm is not needed, as when you realize that most things can not be relied on, they start to matter less. And the things that matter the most, and are and should be the basis of all judgment, are the things that would have the least likelihood of being effected. Like things that result from a person’s childhood, how someone was brought up; which would take an immense amount to change.

These are the things that ultimately define who we are. This is the set that defines our most basic functions. This finite set of FACTS! These facts are much less in number than what one might initially use to describe one’s self. Human beings are eventually, very simple basic creatures who want simple things like self preservation. People are slightly more complicated, we want things that can be described as a way of life, and material things, or global peace and what not. What we want, defines how we act, and therefore, who we are.

So if we control what we want, or what we care about, then we can control who we are. And even recognize who others are. If we can change what we want, we can change who we are. If we can change who we are, what’s to stop up from becoming who we WANT to be?

 

—- as i was reading this before i posted it, i thought of this quote

“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty. ”
Frank Herbert 

To answer that, we must remember a basic rule in physics, to each action, there’s an equal reaction. In this case, the desire to change, is met by one of two things
A: Fear of the results, or failure. “I hope that fear of failure will no longer be an obstacle after I finish this”
B: lack of desire to pull the required effort. I.e. not liking the change essentially.
Because you see, we either change because we want to, or have to.

So can we control change? Yes we can! -sorry folks, no pun intended-  How? We can either change the set of constants in our lives to force ourselves to change “which is easier” or we can generate enough desire through any means to meet the force met by fear of failure, or laziness towards the effort. Because that’s what it is ladies and gentlemen, LAZINESS. We change when we need to simply because we have no other choice. But if we change because we want to, that’s more likely to last, and be a pleasant change. And it is change that lasts that matters. It is change that lasts that makes a real dent in the world. It is important to remember that what we want to change, is closely attached, or should be, to what we ultimately want and who we are.

If you say that it can be someone’s nature is to be a quitter, you’re wrong. Being a quitter is not a nature, it is a result. Being a fearful person is a nature. To change that nature, we need to find out what we’re afraid of and force ourselves to face it if needed. To gain courage, we either make the obstacles smaller, which is why some things are easier to change than others. Or we gain whatever skills and attributes we need to meet the demands of what this “quitter” really wants to go after. And by doing so, having no reason to be afraid, and basically remaining a fearful person, but with more skill, there for less to be afraid of.Whatever work!

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~ by Mazz on 5 March, 2009.

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